Undomesticated Woman

“You’ll know when you have a wild woman. She can’t be missed or mistaken. She will be bold, a free spirit. A woman who will not allow herself to be held to a standard, or a “norm”. She is her own leader and makes her own choices. She’s outspoken, dirty mouthed, and unapologetically passionate about what (and who) she loves.”  Megan Willis

I saw a meme in a comedy group today about how cats became domesticated and someone had added a comment that said “That’s how women got domesticated, too.” And my thought was, ‘why would anyone want a domesticated woman?’

But I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how most people don’t really know the REAL me. The real me is very undomesticated. Then I found this great article by a writer named Megan Willis entitled “How to Love a Wild Woman” and I LOVED it.

Here are some quotes that Megan uses to describe a Wild Woman and I think they describe me to a T:

• She finds comfort in nature, old books, and holistic remedies.
• If you try to control her, she will rebel against it. She rebels against anything that makes her uncomfortable, makes her question herself, or she knows isn’t right.
• She can’t stand back and watch someone be hateful. She speaks her mind and her mouth knows no filter. The thoughts and opinions of others don’t concern her or affect her life. And it can come as a shock to realize that this goes for everyone. Friends, family, partners, everyone. If she feels disrespected, she will let you know, sooner than later.
• Being outdoors and experiencing nature is essential to her and her wild heart.
• She craves deep conversation, understanding, and soulful connections. Tell her about your life, your past, your struggles and achievements. What makes you happy, what keeps you awake at night, your childhood. Talk about the world, people, outer space, nature’s wonders . . . these are things that interest her. Things that are beautiful yet mysterious because they’re hard to understand .
• She leads her own life. Any attempt to tame her will only hurt her and she will break free every time. She chooses her own road, so if it’s the wrong path, she has no one else to blame. Let her lead her own way, make her own path.

It takes a strong man to love a strong woman and I was very fortunate to be loved by a man for 16 years who didn’t try to domesticate me or  tame my wild spirit. Since he passed away, it’s been a struggle to try to fit into a world that seems to want women to act their age, behave appropriately, or fit into some mold of what they think women should be. When you are loved for who you really are, your soul is free and completely uncaged. Its kind of ridiculous to even contemplate allowing a man to try to domesticate me again. I definitely want to find love again. I’m just looking for a man who understands and loves me for who I am and doesn’t try to change me into who he wants me to be, instead.